Duplicity & When Keeping it Real Goes Wrong

  Who you are should be a source of confidence and pride. You should be able to accept yourself for who you are, short comings and all, and unflinchingly present yourself to the world (not in the 'Janet Jackson at the Superbowl' way...all though I never complain about seeing a nice pair of milk glands). That's not to say you shouldn't try and improve on what you perceive as a personal flaw (All though some theorize that your weaknesses will always be your weaknesses and rather than waste time focusing on them, you should just continue to improve on your strengths...food for thought, but I digress), rather that you should be conscious & comfortable enough with them to continue to live as you see fit.  Be that as it may, presenting your full personality is not beneficial all the time

  The most obvious of these moments when you may curb your nature is at the office.  Political correctness and modern corporate culture aims to take the more inflammatory parts of ourselves out of the office.  All though it may seem like a good idea to slap your female coworker on the ass the same way you do your female friends (as I do), this isn't the 50's and you'd have some tough conversations in your future (if it were the 50's, I'd be lucky to even be in that situation, as most janitors didn't have female coworkers...if I did & it happened to be a white woman...let's just say I'd get a view to die for at the next lynching).  Cursing, crude jokes, politics, and personal beliefs are all things that have been removed from the office environment so that it can be more palatable by a larger group of people.  This makes sense to me, as I also limit the extent of the insanity that I show while at work or around coworkers. 

Rant: Natural Hair & The Token Black Actor

As an African-Canadian/American, I feel like it's patronizing whenever I see a black person in an ad with a natural hairstyle

What do you mean "Natural Hair"?
  Natural hair is gaining popularity amongst black women and lazy black men.  Looking to return to their more Afro-centric roots (No pun intended...no matter how nappy they are) or just to keep healthier hair by not using chemicals to straighten it, more and more women are jumping on the natural band-wagon...and I'm fine with that.  Black men usually don't have processed hair anymore (Think Jheri-curls, s-curls, & Al Sharpton), outside of Luster's Pink Lotion & Murray's hair grease (Which could probably stop a bullet if shot into the can).  Growing out one's hair has become popular for many through their teenage and twenty-something years.  I have no issue with having healthier hair and/or wanting to be more true to your ethnic roots with your hairstyle choice...But with that said, a messy natural hairstyle looks sloppy & dirty to me (Exhibit A).

 I'm very happy this is in the past

Extra Thought: Petty Girl Rock & Petty Boy Swag

  @jUst_donNi called @MrrobErts3 petty this past weekend as a joke. For some reason, that stood out to me. Has being petty become the norm?

Petty: 
b) Having little or no importance or significance. 
c) Marked by or reflective of narrow interests and sympathies, small minded
Originating from Middle English 'pety', small, minor, alteration of 'petit' 
                                                                                                 - Websters Dictionary

Wise Words From a Decent Addict

Beware of Expectations

Beware of expectations! 

  Your expectations can skew reality.  They can drive you to feel entitled if they aren't realistic.  If you expect to be insulted, you will be defensive and consider harmless statements to be slander.  Expectations are necessary tools to attaining your goals. Setting expectations, seeing the results, and reconciling the difference is key. With understanding, you can learn from your inaccurate expectations.  With wisdom, you can set accurate expectations.  With humility, you will set realistic expectations for yourself. With self esteem, you won't settle for less then your expectations.

Beware of expectations!

Movie Review: Black Swan

Natalie Portman would probably never do a traditional porno...but last night, I watched her get mind-fucked for 2 hours in Black Swan.

Black Swan...no racist

Rant: Intricate Evolution & Necessary Understanding

   The exercise of understanding somebody is never ending...unless, of course, the need to understand them goes away.  People evolve day to day...some leaps are larger than others, but what motivates me today can bore me tomorrow.  We consider a lot of character traits to be constant without the evidence to support the assumed consistency. Even after a large sampling, something can happen that will cause a person to alter what others might consider to be a pillar of their personality.  Without proper communication and attention, you can easily find yourself trying to talk to an outdated version of a person you thought you knew.

   Personally, I ask a lot of questions, that's my way of understanding motivations, and ultimately, people.  Often my questions double as insults or are said in jest but, most of the time, they are sincere and not meant to demean. This dichotomy can be confusing and only through understanding who I am will people be able to accept it.  However, if you don't like your decisions/actions being questioned, you're telling me that you don't want me to understand you, thus stunting whatever progress that was being made.  

Drunken Rant: 12/16/10

  Written between the hours of 2:45am & 3:10am in a hotel room.

                                                "Relax & take notes!"
  That line has nothing to do with what I want to say...FYI.  I thought to myself, I haven't posted in a minute....I haven't ranted drunkenly in a minute...I haven't been in a fight in a minute...Figured I'd knock 2 of those 3 out.  By the way, I will be cursing...Enjoy

**Love is your parents fucking.  So it's only natural to feel uncomfortable when you think about it**
  That line has little to do with what I want to say...but I like how it sounds.  Love is something that everybody wants, looks for, lies about having, and then goes crazy because of. Maybe we shouldn't worry so much about claiming/identifying/forcing it, and just let that messy mother fucker come on it's own.  Speaking of cumming...love is a lot like it...Sometimes you want to make it happen so badly, that you end up ruining a decent scenario. If you just relax, go with the flow, and pay attention to the situation...it will come naturally (Words of a single person...take with salt, tequila, & lime).