Debate: I'm Just Saying, You Can Do Better

  This year has seen a lot of relationship milestones for my friends. 3 weddings, anniversaries, new relationships, exiting old relationships, etc. My close friends & I sometimes discuss our relationships (or casual situations) and give opinions/advice/motivation where applicable.  One thing that I will not do, however, is say that someone can do better based on my opinion of their significant other.  That lead me to ask the question:

Is it ever truly appropriate to tell someone they can do better?

Duplicity & When Keeping it Real Goes Wrong

  Who you are should be a source of confidence and pride. You should be able to accept yourself for who you are, short comings and all, and unflinchingly present yourself to the world (not in the 'Janet Jackson at the Superbowl' way...all though I never complain about seeing a nice pair of milk glands). That's not to say you shouldn't try and improve on what you perceive as a personal flaw (All though some theorize that your weaknesses will always be your weaknesses and rather than waste time focusing on them, you should just continue to improve on your strengths...food for thought, but I digress), rather that you should be conscious & comfortable enough with them to continue to live as you see fit.  Be that as it may, presenting your full personality is not beneficial all the time

  The most obvious of these moments when you may curb your nature is at the office.  Political correctness and modern corporate culture aims to take the more inflammatory parts of ourselves out of the office.  All though it may seem like a good idea to slap your female coworker on the ass the same way you do your female friends (as I do), this isn't the 50's and you'd have some tough conversations in your future (if it were the 50's, I'd be lucky to even be in that situation, as most janitors didn't have female coworkers...if I did & it happened to be a white woman...let's just say I'd get a view to die for at the next lynching).  Cursing, crude jokes, politics, and personal beliefs are all things that have been removed from the office environment so that it can be more palatable by a larger group of people.  This makes sense to me, as I also limit the extent of the insanity that I show while at work or around coworkers. 

The Social Media Filter pt. 2: My Stance

**House Keeping**
  My goal for creating the debate topic posts has been to present you all with a situation or observation and (hopefully) spark some conversation about it.  I try to state my opinion of it simply, and leave it up to the readers to discuss without me directing it too much.  In this case, I've been asked to elaborate on my opinion (*Waves to Hazel & Domo*), so this is that.

  I feel like we are losing sight of the power of social media.  I create a profile, upload a profile pic, enter some basic info, Google indexes it, then anybody that searches something similar can get access to that information.  That visibility is too often over-looked by this generation.  I know a lot of things that I shouldn't about people I don't know, barely know, or have never met.  People get tunnel vision when using social media, thinking that it's just them & their online friends in the circle of trust...when really, some 60 year old guy in his tighty-whities is reading your tweets about how you are about to finger-bang your night away (FTR, I wear boxers).

The Social Media Filter

  Social media connects people in ways that previously weren't possible or weren't preferred.  My friend in Canada can go to my Facebook page and see my latest activity, but so can that creepy chick that I just accepted as a friend out of sympathy.  Also, a company that I'm applying for can search my profile to see what I do in my personal life before they hire me (That's the reason I take down the pics of me smiling at the camera while drunkenly mounting a chick bent over my coffee table before I interview). Now, with some properly applied privacy settings, the people that you aren't close to can only get a limited portion of your online shenanigans.  However, what about those you are close with?

Debate: I Don't Have To Like You...Right?

  We all have friends (or think we do), and a part of life is meeting your friend's significant other.  However, like with other people we meet, it's up in the air whether or not we will like them...and I don't see a problem with that.  This could be a big problem or a small side note depending on how often you are forced to be in the same place, but it will come up at some point.

"Stupid Bitch" (Pic from Big Bang Theory courtesy of ausiellofiles.ew.com)

3 Factors Why People Oppose The "Ground Zero Mosque"

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  There is a lot of debate right now about whether or not a mosque (also reported as a Muslim community center, but in the grand scheme of things, it matters not) should be allowed to be built at ground zero of the September 11th terror attacks.  The pro side is trying to hold true to the 1st amendment to the constitution that promotes religious freedom in this country. The opposing side views this as a slap in the face of the 9/11 victims' families & survivors as the idea of an Islamic center on the site of a terror attack carried out by people of the Islamic faith is like saying the terrorists won (Background articles: Fox News & CNN).  Each side has been very passionate about their stance. Passion, however can also be used to cover ignorance.

  I feel like the opposing side's argument (in some cases, not every) can be boiled down into 3 factors which are as follows: